Precious Gifts

Just waiting...

Once again I am anticipating the arrival of another miracle and I am so excited. I can't wait for Taevon to be in my arms. People look at me like I am crazy when they know we are adopting a 4th little boy, our 3rd with special needs.  Some of the things people say just amaze me. I wonder if they think at all before they speak. I have had people ask me "Why special needs"? I have had people tell me to wait until they don't take naps anymore, or to wait until they are all teenagers. I have had many people ask "When do you find the time to clean"? I have even had someone say "well, someone has to love them" That comment made me so angry. Do they not think that these special boys are worthy of love?? or was it just ignorance??People have asked "can you do it?  People have even talked about their birth mom's and the fact that they should not have had kids. Most of the time I just ignore what people say but sometimes it gets to me and makes me sad. Then I just look at my boys and all I can do is smile!

Why?
Because these are the most amazing kids! Once you get to know them they will change your life.

No naps? Messy house?
So what if they won't lay down for a nap..is there anything better than a little one snuggled up next to you with a book? Spending time with a sleepy little boy in the rocking chair is pure heaven. So what if my house is a mess..the laundry will always be there but they will not always want to sit on my lap..they will not always ask for me to play with them. I want to treasure and enjoy every moment with them.


I love them more than words can say. These are amazing little boys and they are all my miracles. If people choose not to really get to know them then it is their loss. Each of them has their own personality and brings so much joy to our family. They are my whole world!

And Yes I can do it. These kids need lots of attention but I am able to give each of them everything they need. If I didn't know I could help each of them reach their full potential then I wouldn't do it, because it wouldn't be fair to them. For some reason my days don't feel rushed, I seem to have just enough time to get everything done. Its once I get them all to bed that I feel like my time goes so fast. I enjoy every minute I spend with them. Seeing them accomplish what some might feel is small brings tears to my eyes. These boys work hard everyday!

As far as their families are concerned nobody should judge anyone else. Not everyone has the full support of a loving family. Everyone makes poor choices. There are plenty of people that should not have kids that have the support of a family. The kids are what are important.  Please don't judge anyone else or their circumstances. If you see a parent struggle offer help instead of criticism.

I have learned so much from each of these precious little boys.
Nicholas has taught me to love more deeply, forgive faster and laugh more often
Keagan has taught me to never stop trying and to be even more patient
Aaron has taught me not to take anything for granted, to cherish each and every minute with my boys
I can't wait to find out what I will learn from Taevon. He is a fighter and has overcome insurmountable odds (that's a post for another time)

I feel extremely honored to be able to raise these precious gifts. They are amazing and I am a better person because of them. If everyone would take the time to get to really know them they would understand. I hear people complain about their kids...to many dr appts, too much therapy, I don't have time to work with my kid....
Maybe it is different since I chose to adopt children with special needs but I can't imagine not doing everything possible for my children. Children change your life, they are my whole world. It is sad to me that some parents have kids but their lives don't really change...they are missing out on some great memories and wonderful opportunies. I wouldn't change a thing about my crazy life. I LOVE it!!

I can't wait until I can love on T!!

I hope people will take the time to get to know these precious gifts. They have so much to offer and are true gifts from God.