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Monday February 24, 2014

Oh my the things people say...

I was sitting in the hospital waiting room  with Tae today and someone asked "is he yours?' I said "yes" . They ask "do you have others?" I replied, "yes, 3 other boys" To which she adds "how do you handle all those boys, I could never do that" I simply said "our routine is a life saver" She asked their ages and I said "I have a 8 year old and three 6 year olds. She gasped and said "triplets?!?" I told her no that they were adopted. Her next question "did you know he had problems or did they hide it? This question gets me every time. I told her "yes I knew"  She asked "you got anymore that got problems? I told her all of my 6 year olds have different needs. She went on to tell me that she could never do what I do. She said she didn't know what she would do if any of her kids ever had problems.....After she got done telling me how horrible it has to be to take care of kids that don't know anything she asked "would you do it again?" She ended the conversation saying "it must be easier to adopt kids that are broken".... Thankfully the person she was waiting for appeared and she left...

A million times YES!!!! I would not change anything!! I have the family that God chose just for ME!! How awesome is that. He knew from the beginning that these would be my precious little boys. His plan is far better than anything I could have ever imagined.

For those people that think because of the struggle with infertility and loss I settled by adopting are so wrong. Adoption is a gift!  My kids were prayed for, wanted, and chosen!!! They are answers to so many prayers. They are my miracles.

I didn't adopt them because I am special or super mom. In my heart I knew this is what I was meant to do. I have learned more from these boys than I ever imagined. They have changed my life. The things I thought were important I now know are not. The things I took for granted I now cherish. Even how I choose to spend my time is different.  When I look at them I don't see their "disabilities". I see 4 amazing little boys that have more love and personality than a lot of other kids I know.

Nicholas is the sweetest child. He has the biggest heart. He is always concerned about the kids that are bullied. He has so much empathy. I am so proud of him. He was my first miracle and I LOVE him so much. He is still so innocent and I want him to stay that way for as long as possible. Unfortunately he is so smart and sees how society treats his brothers. The way he runs to me when he gets off the bus or that last hug and kiss he needs before he gets on the bus melts my heart.

Taevon is an amazing little boy. He overcame amazing odds. He proved all his drs wrong and started to breathe when he was taken off life support. What a miracle!! His smile lights up the room. He has taught me that anything is possible. He loves to be held and to be rocked. He melts my heart when he put his head on my shoulder and smiles. I LOVE this boy!

Keagan is full of life. He has the best dimples and sweetest laugh. Oh how I love to hear him giggle. He tries so hard to do things that most of us take for granted. His stroke, fetal alcohol syndrome and now Auditory and/or language processing disorder make learning very hard. He NEVER gives up. He has taught me to keep trying. To try my best in ALL that I do. He loves everyone and loves to help me with Aaron and Taevon. The way he jumps into my arms for hugs and kisses melts my heart every time. I LOVE this sweet boy!!

Aaron is my Super Hero. He has been through more in his short life than anyone I know. We have had some very close calls with Aaron. Thankfully he is doing well right now. Through all of his hospital stays, drs appointments, therapy he smiles. He has won over the hearts of all of his drs, nurses, and therapists. He has the biggest personality and makes his presence known. He communicates so well. He is a smart little boy. He knows way more than people give him credit for. He seems to know who is really interested in him and acts accordingly. He knows if someone is being genuine with him. If they are he interacts with them and they see his personality. If he doesn't think someone is genuine he shuts down. He won't interact or give them the time of day. He is so funny and has the best sense of humor. I LOVE this boy. He has taught me to take nothing for granted. I cherish EVERY second I get to spend with him.

These boys are my whole world. I can't imagine my life without any of them. There have been some times when the kids have not been treated very nice. I am not sure of the reasons and at this point I don't really care about the excuses. Just understand that these are MY boys and I LOVE them more than anything. They deserve to be treated the same regardless of their needs. I know people don't understand, or they are uncomfortable around the boys, or whatever the reason but they are little boys.  They deserve all of the love and attention that the others get. Treat ALL of them as you would want your kids treated. I know that it was my decision to adopt these angels. If you don't agree keep it to yourself. I have an amazing family and it was created by God. My kids were not accidents, mistakes or unplanned. They are gifts from God!!

Remember if you see us say "HI" to all of them. I promise it won't hurt. It might even open your eyes and change your life to get to know these miracles.