My sweet Keag suffers form migraines. He is miserable when he has a migraine. I have been asked by several people how we know he isn't just trying to get out of something, or he just wants some extra attention because of all his brothers. FIRST I spend time with EACH of my boys EVERY single day. They are my world. I wanted, prayed and hoped for each one of them. My boys are happy and well adjusted. They don't tease others, bully others and have more compassion and empathy than other kids. I hold them accountable for their actions and I tell them "no".
When Keag complains of a headache he doesn't automatically say he is having a migraine. Sometimes he just asks for Tylenol and keeps playing. Sometimes he asks for Tylenol and takes a nap. Then there are times that he cries and says his head hurts "very bad" He asks for Tylenol and goes to bed for the rest of the day and sometimes most if not all of the next day. He puts his blanket over his head, wants it dark and totally quiet. He does not want the TV or music playing. Most of the time he throws up a few times. He is miserable. After a migraine he is usually tired for the next few days, they just seem to take all of his energy. That is how I know he is really having a migraine.
There are a lot of differences between headaches and migraines. There are a lot of adults that complain of migraines and are still able to read a book, watch TV, listen to Ipod, post on facebook and pin on Pinterest. I am fairly certain they aren't having migraines. Most likely just a headache of convenience. I think they are the ones wanting attention or trying to get out of doing something.
And NO I don't ask others to take care of my kids. I don't have a nursing service that comes to my home. I am able to take all 4 of my boys out by myself. I push Taevon in his wheelchair and pull Aaron in his wheelchair. (Aaron loves to go backwards!!) I take them all to Dr appointments, therapy appointments, the library and wherever else we want to go. I do all of the care for Aaron and Taevon, cook, clean and do laundry plus Nick and Keag. I am so tired of hearing people whine about what they have to do or how long its been since they got to do something fun for themselves. Being a mom is the hardest and most rewarding job I have ever had. If these people spent all of the time they post/check facebook, pin on pinterest, whine about being an adult/parent on parenting their kids they would be a lot better off. Teach your kids not to tease, not to bully and to keep their hands to themselves. Stop giving them excuses for bad behavior. ALL kids need to be held accountable for their words and actions. Some kids need extra redirection and prompts but they all need to learn how to act and how to treat others. And yes Aaron and Taevon get timeouts. They do understand. Parent your kids. Its not kids being kids its poor parenting.
I am not saying that its all rainbows and butterflies here. It is hard work. I either grocery shop at night after the boys go to bed or very early on Sat before anyone is awake. There are days that seem to go on forever, piles of laundry that never seem to end, countless trips to the Dr, therapy and extended hospital
stays, thinking up things for dinner, ironing, cleaning and disinfecting Aaron's toys. I have days where I would like to just put in a movie and go into the other room. I have days where I cry and wonder how am I going to get through this with Aaron. I have even had days where I wish I could call Dave and have him come home from work. I have days where fear and worry take over and I just cant seem to get anything done. But I do it. I do it because I chose to be a mom. I need to do it for my kids. My kids need to see that when things need to be done they get done. I don't want to teach my kids that if I don't want to do something or I think some thing is too hard that I pass off on others. I choose to be the best parent I can be. Yes I make mistakes, and yes there are things I wish I would have done differently. But I try my best everyday to teach my children how to be good people. I am so proud of the people they are becoming.
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